This is more consistent, as it doesn't make any sense for a user to be able to
set up an EC J-PAKE password with TLS if the corresponding key exchange is
disabled.
Arguably this is what we should de for other key exchanges as well instead of
depending on ECDH_C etc, but this is an independent issue, so let's just do
the right thing with the new key exchange and fix the other ones later. (This
is a marginal issue anyway, since people who disable all ECDH key exchange are
likely to also disable ECDH_C in order to minimize footprint.)
The Thread spec says we need those for EC J-PAKE too.
However, we won't be using the information, so we can skip the parsing
functions in an EC J-PAKE only config; keep the writing functions in order to
comply with the spec.
While at it, fix the following:
- on server with RSA_PSK, we don't want to set flags (client auth happens via
the PSK, no cert is expected).
- use safer tests (eg == OPTIONAL vs != REQUIRED)
